Monday, July 14, 2014

New subjects - feminist biology, femistry and galgebra

photo: courtesy of the AEI, wikipedia
I have known for some time that feminism has become militant to the detriment of western culture, but I haven't begun to know the half of it.

This vlog (video blog) by Christina Hoff Sommers exposes many of the lies being put forward by feminists and institutions, usually based on disingenuous interpretation of statistics, or based on statistics fabricated from faulty information gathering techniques and invalid sample sizes. When credible statistics are interpreted correctly, they end up supporting the need to help men rather than women.

Please watch this refreshing and eye-opening series, called the Factual Feminist, produced by the American Enterprise Institute.

All episodes can be found here on YouTube.

Note, the title of this post was adapted from The Simpsons (season 16, episode 'Future-Drama') and the Factual Feminist (episode 9).


Sunday, July 13, 2014

Justice Clarence Thomas on 60 Minutes

60 Minutes
In this excellent 2007 clip on 60 Minutes, Supreme Court Justice, Clarence Thomas, discusses his nomination at the age of 43, and all the hoops he had to jump through, including allegations of sexual harassment by Anita Hill.

In the interview, Thomas reveals that the attempted lynching was all about abortion. In his words, "It was the elephant in the room."

In this statement below, Thomas turns the table against his interrogators, and effectively ends the debate.
This is a circus. It's a national disgrace. It is a high-tech lynching for uppity blacks, who in any way deign to think for themselves. It is a message that unless you kowtow to an old order, you will be lynched, destroyed, characatured, by a committee of the U.S. Senate rather than hung from a tree. 
"I think it is always worth it to stand on principle no matter what the ultimate goal is. Wrong is wrong, even if it was over a penny." -- Justice Clarence Thomas

The man is a hero.

Saturday, July 5, 2014

Man boys - it's time to get married and start living

photo credit: Hammer51012 via photopin cc
This post is dedicated to all the single man boys out there who are simply content doing their own thing, perhaps wasting their time and fooling around, or focused solely on themselves and their hobbies. It's time to let go of your single life, find a woman, and get married.

If you're wondering why I would say this, well, let's just say that now that I have the benefit of hindsight, I can say with all honesty, that married life is way better and more fulfilling in every single way than being single. Sharing the rest of your life and experiences with a spouse will give a man the maximum contentment possible (perhaps second only to being a priest as they give themselves to God, even better). Don't waste your time like I did until your mid-thirties before tying the knot. Try to get hitched in your mid twenties after making something of yourself and after you are capable of being a provider.

If you're still reading, and interested, then I think the best way to achieve this is to make some serious changes in your attitude and habits before even thinking about being worthy of a woman's hand in marriage. In this post I discuss (1) how to clean up your act, (2) the importance of getting off the fence, (3) what to look for in a woman, (4) the true meaning of love, (5) making something of yourself, and (6) how to find her.

1. Clean yourself up

Pornography is a sickness, which affects a man's brain, causing frontal lobe damage (Slave Master, Neuroscience speaks: how using porn destroys your willpower, This is your brain on porn).
I challenge you to stop viewing pornography, and to stop masturbating for a full year.
If you are successful at stopping for a full year, then not only are you on your way to being freed from both of these addictions, but you will have gained more self-confidence in yourself as well as having obtained the right disposition to begin a healthy friendship with a woman, that could eventually lead to marriage. Without taking these first steps to clean yourself up, you will be stuck as a man boy, probably indefinitely. On the other hand, if you are successful at passing my challenge for at least a year, then I am quite confident that you will be able to make it permanent, and you will like yourself a whole lot better. Related articles on this topic can found at the end of this post.

The long term benefits of cleaning yourself up are huge. For one thing, your female friends (one of whom could be your future wife) will take notice of you, and appreciate how you treat them with respect and dignity as persons. You will have poise, confidence, and assertiveness, all important qualities that a woman looks for in a man. I truly believe that getting rid of pornography and masturbation from your life will not only help you to find a woman to marry, but it will help you to stay married to her for the rest of your life. Many marriages fail due to infidelity, as described in the study, Porn use can lead to divorce.

2. Get off the fence and take a position

Many people think that they are being tolerant and morally superior if they take a centrist approach on all the big issues. After all, nobody will be offended with your centrist attitude. However, not taking a position on one side on anything will do you no good. You really should make up your mind on controversial issues as this will help you to form your own moral value system and character. For example, do you believe in God, or are you atheist? Are you pro-Israel? Are you pro-American? Have you taken a moral position on issues such as pre-marital sex, same-sex marriage, contraception, abortion, and euthanasia? Do you vote consistently for one party, if you vote at all? Do you support economic policies that are in favour of big government, communism, Marxism, socialism, etc., or are you in favour of small government with limited powers, free markets, and capitalism?

If you can't answer all of these questions, then you need to read and educate yourself. Also, don't just read mainstream media to get the liberal view on things. Go to the Internet to read and learn from the conservative view points as well. You'll be surprised to learn how different the news can be from both view points. After a while, you should gain enough objectivity and impartiality to recognize propaganda from real news, and you'll be better able to see through the lies and deceit within mainstream liberal media sources. Use the Internet to read and listen to conservative news sources as well.

Knowing yourself will help you to figure out what qualities you are looking for in your future wife and the mother of your children. A whole gamut of potential problems and disputes within marriage can be avoided if you take firm positions on many of the controversial issues just mentioned. Rather than playing it safe by sitting on the fence, get off it and choose a side. It is much better to get off the fence while you are still single so that you can then discuss your beliefs and system of values when you have conversations with women. If you don't find someone with similar values, then I strongly recommend moving on and finding someone else. Don't be fooled by a woman's good looks or your feelings of attraction towards her. There's so much more to life with a spouse than just physical attraction. This is something you'll figure out after you have cleaned yourself up as mentioned in part one of this post.

3. It's all about her character, not her interests 

Every guy has their own criteria for finding a woman to marry, but I'd like to point out some basic pitfalls to avoid, and things to look for. Now that you have cleaned up your act and are no longer addicted to pornography, forget about looking for the Barbie doll/super model type of woman only to gratify your sexual fantasies. This is not what matters when it comes to marriage. Marriage is a life long commitment that takes work and self-giving. If you are in it for yourself, and if you are still a selfish person, then you are not ready to be a husband. Rather than being overly concerned with looks, focus on getting to know her character, and finding out if she agrees with your moral value system. Is she on the same side of the fence as you are, or on the opposite side? If she's on the opposite side of the fence, look for another woman.

I also used to think that the woman of my dreams would be able to give me a good game at tennis, volleyball, or basketball. I would have been very sad if I had rejected my wife during our single days just because she wasn't athletic in sports. Fortunately her athletic ability was lower on my list of priorities, and so it didn't make one iota of difference. Not everyone has to have the same level of interest in sports or other activities. However, it is important to develop shared interests during a marriage. You can explore new interests together, and learn to share and enjoy them with each other.

The most important thing in a marriage is not shared interests. It is having a common shared vision for your future, open and healthy communication with each other, and overall respectful interaction during your worst moments. Good marriages are not built on common interests and hobbies alone. Instead, they are based on character, personality, and shared values.

4. "Falling in love" is a myth

It is common for most people to think that you have to "fall in love" first before getting married. This is not quite true. Perhaps the word "love" should not be used at this point in time as giving oneself fully to another doesn't really happen (or at least should not happen in my opinion) until one has exchanged marriage vows. When most people say they have "fallen in love", I think it really refers to the initial romantic stage, or puppy love, that occurs when a man and woman are attracted to each other. I think that romance and affection are separate and distinct from true love. In fact, it is more correct to say that love is a choice and a commitment. It is not a feeling or an emotion.
Today we've bought into this myth that love is uncontrollable, that it just kind of happens to you.

In fact, even the language we use implies that we can’t control how we love. We say, “I fell in love” — like it was a ditch! I was just walking along one day and — bam! — I fell in love. I just couldn’t help myself. But is that really love?

Attraction and arousal are uncontrollable — no doubt about it. But attraction and arousal are not love. They can lead to love, but they are not love.

Love is a choice.

During a wedding ceremony, a man and a woman stand before each other and say their vows. They say to the other person, “I choose you above everybody else in the world, and I choose you for the rest of my life.” They make a public statement of their choice — that’s a commitment.

You can’t force somebody to fall in love with you, and you can’t force him or her to stay in love with you. Why? Because love is a choice. Love cannot be forced. This is true of all relationships, including your relationship with God. (Rick Warren)
This concept is harder for women to grasp than it is for men. Most women are brainwashed by cultural norms stemming from Hollywood and Walt Disney movies. Some women are waiting for their knight in shining armour to magically appear and sweep them off their feet. This is a highly emotional feeling that doesn't last. I do acknowledge that this image may serve a purpose in providing a woman that initial spark of interest in a man, but it is by no means the foundation on which a good marriage can flourish, and it is definitely not what I would describe as true love. Feelings and emotions come and go with the wind. When that feeling fades away, and it will, well then what? Everyone should read Peter Kreeft's definition of "love" to get a full and deeper understanding of its meaning. It is crucial to know what "love" truly means in order to have a good marriage.
Feelings come to us, passively; love comes from us, actively, by our free choice. (Peter Kreeft)
5. Make something of yourself

A post-secondary education is not required to prove that you can provide and be worthy of a woman's hand in marriage. For instance, there are plenty of examples of men who have not completed college or university, and yet have gone on to do very well for themselves as business men, computer programmers, real estate agents, etc. A woman looking for a spouse wants to know that you have made something of yourself, and can provide. Being a hard working and responsible man can go a long way at winning the heart of a woman.

6. Get over your fears and call her

If you think you'll meet the woman of your dreams in the grocery store or at a bar, you are kidding yourself. Get serious about finding your future spouse by putting in the effort to make it happen. She won't just fall into your lap no matter how hard you wish for it. Be active in extracurricular activities at school, in your community, and at church, or try to get introduced through parents and friends. Even matchmaking web sites can help (worked for me). When you are ready to make a move, then call her on the phone (don't text her!) or use one of these funny 19th century calling cards. Also, it doesn't hurt to pray.